Let’s be genuine: everyone’s going to face rejection at some point, and it’s painful. You feel like they weren’t able to see everything you could add, or you were dismissed too easily.
I’ve been there many a time, and it’s difficult to realize that what you want doesn’t necessarily want you back, whether it’s a job, a friend, or a school. We come up with these scenarios in our heads that if we had only got this one thing, then we’d be so much happier/more successful/wealthier/healthier/less stressed/the list is infinite.
Rejection is hard, because we think that what we want is automatically what’s best for us. But, what if it’s not? What if we can do better?
Pretend you want this job, and you think it’s the best option for you. And you try so much to get this job, but you get rejected in the last round of interviews.
In a way, it’s actually a positive thing, because the job probably just wasn’t right for you. Perhaps there was something that person saw that might’ve inhibited you from excelling. When we face rejection, in a way, we should celebrate. That person knows what they expect from you better than you might, so that rejection really saves us a lot of frustration later when we’re in a situation we’re not right for. Maybe you just weren’t right for the position–and that’s no one’s fault. All it is is a bad match.
Rejection gets us down now, but it lets us soar later, because it makes us go out and find the opportunity we’re more suited for.
Think about it like this: you can only have one job at a time. If you end up working on this job you hate, you’re wasting time not doing something you’d be really good at. You need to open up that space to allow the good opportunities to take it.
I think that the key to getting what you want is accepting the fact that you don’t always know what you want. You can’t predict every experience, so you have a limited point of view when choosing the “perfect option.” I’ve had this happen a million times, where the thing I thought I wanted actually wasn’t right for me at all, and what I thought I didn’t want was the better match.
I’m going to be cliché and say that I think everything happens for a reason. If something didn’t work out, it’s because you’re meant for something better. You’re meant to be happier/more successful/wealthier/healthier/less stressed/the list is infinite than you’d be with that thing you thought you wanted. When you begin to recognize rejection as one step closer to getting what you want, that’s when you’re unstoppable.