Why you should celebrate rejection

Let’s be genuine: everyone’s going to face rejection at some point, and it’s painful.  You feel like they weren’t able to see everything you could add, or you were dismissed too easily.

I’ve been there many a time, and it’s difficult to realize that what you want doesn’t necessarily want you back, whether it’s a job, a friend, or a school.  We come up with these scenarios in our heads that if we had only got this one thing, then we’d be so much happier/more successful/wealthier/healthier/less stressed/the list is infinite.

Rejection is hard, because we think that what we want is automatically what’s best for us.  But, what if it’s not?  What if we can do better?

Pretend you want this job, and you think it’s the best option for you.  And you try so much to get this job, but you get rejected in the last round of interviews.

In a way, it’s actually a positive thing, because the job probably just wasn’t right for you.  Perhaps there was something that person saw that might’ve inhibited you from excelling.  When we face rejection, in a way, we should celebrate.  That person knows what they expect from you better than you might, so that rejection really saves us a lot of frustration later when we’re in a situation we’re not right for.  Maybe you just weren’t right for the position–and that’s no one’s fault.  All it is is a bad match.

Rejection gets us down now, but it lets us soar later, because it makes us go out and find the opportunity we’re more suited for.

Think about it like this: you can only have one job at a time.  If you end up working on this job you hate, you’re wasting time not doing something you’d be really good at.  You need to open up that space to allow the good opportunities to take it.

I think that the key to getting what you want is accepting the fact that you don’t always know what you want.  You can’t predict every experience, so you have a limited point of view when choosing the “perfect option.”  I’ve had this happen a million times, where the thing I thought I wanted actually wasn’t right for me at all, and what I thought I didn’t want was the better match.

I’m going to be cliché and say that I think everything happens for a reason.  If something didn’t work out, it’s because you’re meant for something better.  You’re meant to be happier/more successful/wealthier/healthier/less stressed/the list is infinite than you’d be with that thing you thought you wanted.  When you begin to recognize rejection as one step closer to getting what you want, that’s when you’re unstoppable.




8 reasons why millennials are a great generation

They say that baby boomers are the selfish workaholics.  Generation Xers are the unfocused cynics.  And finally, millennials are the lazy snowflakes.

I’ve heard it so many times that I feel like I missed the memo on a script:

“Oh, you millennials… you’re lazy and want everything handed to you without working for it!”

But, what if I told you that the millennials aren’t actually that bad?  What if I told you that we’re one of the most socially and technologically innovative generations of all time–that we have this hyper self-awareness, or that we’re passionate about social reform?

Sure, we’re not perfect, and this isn’t a case to say we are.  As a generation, there’s some truth in what some people say about our patience or self-obsession.  I mean, come on, we sensationalized the selfie.  I’m not pretending there aren’t some bizarre things about us, but I do want to highlight our strengths as a generation. 🙂

1. We’re a highly educated generation: We know the value of a degree in today’s job market.  We get that a college degree is the new high school diploma, and although experience becomes more important in our careers later on, schooling is going to give us those initially job opportunities.

2. We want to enjoy our working environment:  We want to take advantage of the opportunities our employers offer us and benefit from them in more ways than just from a salary.  Sure, your work shouldn’t be your entire life, but it’s a decent part of it, so we want to make it as enjoyable as possible.  This translates into overall happier and more productive employees.

3. We don’t take bullying:  In the past, bullying was a character building experience.  However, as time progresses, the importance of bystander intervention has increased.  We’re one of the first generations to receive formally training in standing up to bullies.  We realize that it can lead to mental health problems in adults, and we want to prevent this type of trauma.

4. We’re catalysts for a mass social mental health reform: We’ll talk about the difficult topics, whether it’s depression, anxiety or suicide.  We know that there’re other people who feel like us, and we want to make people aware of both the issues and that they’re not alone.  We value the mental health days, and we know it’s as important as physical health.

5. We’re interconnected and collaborative:  We get that there’s a world around us.  We can use social media to talk to people in every country.  To us, the community isn’t just our home nation–it’s every nation, because we know we can learn something from everyone.

6. We know that things can fall apart:  9/11 and The Great Recession happened early enough in our lives that we realized that sometimes, we don’t have a safety net.  We know that there are some people who just want to hurt us.  We also understand that not everything is guaranteed, and many of us felt the real effects from the crises.

7. We’re proud of our creativity:  With the dawn of the internet, we’ve found a million ways to creatively express ourselves.  From Youtube videos to Deviantart, we’re not afraid to be break out iMovie or a paint brush and show the world what we feel.

8.  We’re that bridge generation with tech: We didn’t grow up with an iPad in our hands.  We grew up on VHS tapes and passing actual notes in class.  Many of us were teenagers by the time social media really hit, so we understood the pre-hyper-tech world better than generations after us will.  However, we also have a lot of experience with social media, so we can empathize a little bit with both generations.



*Lastly, I’d like to thank Jake Picnic for encouraging me to actually write this post.  As they also say, not all heroes wear capes.*

How to win college scholarships

Everyone says it: a college degree is the new high school diploma.  While it’s totally possible to make a good life for yourself without one, today, you need a 4 year degree for a variety of entry level jobs, and more and more of them are requiring higher than a bachelor’s.  We can talk forever about why college really makes you successful, but ultimately, it’s generally agreed upon that it’s becoming more necessary for the next generations of workers.

But, it seems that that isn’t necessarily the issue: convincing someone that they need a college degree for today’s job market.  To me, this seems like a bigger issue: convincing someone to spend, no matter how valuable the future job prospects are, $150,000+ on, really, a slab of decorated parchment.  It’s a large financial commitment alone, and often, there’s a large opportunity cost that goes along with it.  It isn’t usually feasible to work a full-time job while in school, so you’re giving up the money you could’ve already been making to spend more time in a library and gnaw off pencils when it comes to exam season.

Enter financial aid.  Financial aid is money that is given to you that you can spend on college expenses.  Usually, they take the form of scholarships, grants, and loans, and the first 2 don’t need to be paid back (think of it like gift money).  Grants are great, but usually they’re distributed on a need basis; so, even if you’re in need of money for college, if it doesn’t look like it on the tax returns, then you probably won’t get much if you get anything.  But really, in my opinion, scholarships are the form of gift money you have more control over; you can apply to as many with as much effort as you want (even though some are income-based).  I can make a whole post on financial aid, but today, I’m going to offer some tips and lessons I’ve learned from applying for scholarships.  I’m not an expert, nor have I paid for all of my college with scholarships, but I’ve spent some long nights writing application essays, so I want to share what I do know and how you can maximize your chances of winning them.

1. Don’t discard sub-$1000 awards:  Here’s a fact: .3% of all students will receive full rides to college.  Forget your “all or nothing” mentality for a quick second.  Let’s be totally transparent–the chances of you scoring one single scholarship to pay for all of your schooling is out of the ordinary.  I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen, because I know plenty of people who’ve gotten full rides to study, but I don’t think it’s the wisest approach to only apply to the awards that promise your entire education’s worth.  From what I’ve seen, the competition for these programs is also really high–when you think about it, it’s a great idea in theory: just get one big sponsor to fund the entire thing, and you’ll never have to fill out another application.  But, the thing is that other people are thinking like you: many of them also want full scholarships with as little work as possible.  I know some people who don’t believe that <$1000 scholarship applications are worth their time, because you’re spending a decent amount of time filling out an application for less money.  But, when the competition for the $500 scholarship is less than the more popular, generous scholarships, the chances of you winning money are statistically higher.

2. Every season is scholarship-applying season:  There’s no one deadline for every scholarship available to college students.  Some have definitive deadlines and others have rolling, “while money lasts” deadlines.  SWE scholarships, for example, have all their website scholarship deadlines ending on one day via one application.  You’ll still find scholarships to apply for in August, just like you will in March.  Also, applications are just limited to second-to-last quarter high school seniors; undergraduate, graduate, and professional students can apply to scholarships, too.  Scholarships are for everyone! 🙂

3. Profit from what’s different about you:  What makes you unique is very important.  This allows you to find your niche scholarships to apply for–like we said before, those are the ones that have less competition, which means that they’ll be easier to win.  For example, let’s compare two extremes I found online: the $1000 College JumpStart Scholarship vs. the GRCP Arts Council of Greater Grand Rapids Minority Scholarship.  The first is open to anyone in high school through college, meaning you’ll have a wider range of competition; the second has requirements so specific (a certain race, major, county resident, socioeconomic status, and GPA) that only a couple people will probably meet them.  In order to win scholarships, you want to reduce you competition as much as possible, which means that you’ll want to go for more specific requirements with the ones you’re applying for.  However, make sure you meet the qualifications before you apply–if not, you risk wasting your time if your application gets thrown away, all because you didn’t follow the directions (those being: if a match, apply, if not, don’t).

4. Remember the locals: Usually, local community organizations. such as the Rotary Club, love to give out scholarships to students in their areas.  Again, by reducing the size of the area eligible students, you’re reducing your competition again.  National scholarships are great, but you’re competing against more students, and your odds can get significantly rougher.

5. Don’t just look in one place:  Having a go-to website like scholarships.com is a great start finding scholarships, but I don’t recommend you only look in one place.  Your university might post college-specific scholarships that a general college search engine doesn’t catch.  Having a few good, general websites to comb through, in addition to one or two niche scholarship websites.  This’ll give you an even larger list of all the scholarships available!

6. Don’t count yourself out until you get a rejection email: For whatever reason, it’s common for scholarship applicants to assume they’re not going to win the awards they apply for.  Until you get a letter from the committee that firmly states “sorry, you didn’t get this award,” don’t assume that you didn’t get the award.  It’s easy to create this perfect candidate in your head as your competition: one with a better GPA, better letters of rec, and more leadership roles.  However, that perfect candidate may not even be applying to this award; to someone else, you are the perfect candidate they made up in their head.  You don’t know who you’re competing against for most awards, but that doesn’t mean that they’re automatically more qualified than you.

7. Email and ask for clarification:  Leave no question unanswered.  If you can’t find out how long the essay should be, ask.  If you aren’t sure whether your major is eligible, ask.  By speaking up, you’re not only making sure everything in your application is right, but you’re also making yourself be heard and showing that you care about the criteria.  Sometimes, this doesn’t make a difference, but sometimes, one of the judges could be the one checking and replying to your emails.



6 rules that’ll help you tackle any overwhelming project

What do applying to grad school, renovating your basement, and training for a marathon all have in common?

You end up using more expletives than The Wolf of Wall Street if you don’t attack them all the right way.

Overwhelming tasks breed procrastination.  That feeling of “oh my lanta, I can’t handle that right now… I’ll just wait until tomorrow.” Until tomorrow becomes next Tuesday and next Tuesday becomes next October and before you know it it’s been a decade and you still haven’t planted that fig-and-other-small-fruits garden.

I like overwhelming projects; once you have a method of dealing with them, it becomes a game of how quickly you can implement the rules to conquer the task.  Kind of like fast chess, but the pawns are replaced by college days clutter or intimidating, summertime power bills.  Here are the rules I use to ensure project checkmate:

1. Be flexible with what “success” is: Pretend you’re applying to law school, and you have your eye on Yale Law.  If you define your range of success so narrowly that there’s only a small chance you won’t feel like a failure in the end, like defining success as only an acceptance to Yale’s Law Class of 2020, you need to adjust how you see success.  Of course, success is subjective—I might see something as a success that you don’t, or the reverse.  That being said, when you define just one outcome as a success, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.  You could see that offer from Berkeley as just a consolation prize, meanwhile either school sets you up for a career brighter than a neon store light.

2. Give it double time:  I heard this from a student in the grade above me back in high school.  Have a plan about how long something’s going to take, like for example, an essay, double the time, and then assume that’s how long it’ll take to write it.  Sometimes, we’re overly optimistic; that means we don’t always take into account the setbacks and slow downs that keep us at our target time.  When you’re completing a task, expect to run into every one of those little obstacles: your pencil broke, you can’t find the charger to your dead computer, your motherboard caught fire, etc.  This also allows you to relax by taking some of the time pressure off, which, in itself, might help you finish the job more quickly.  Think about Murphy’s Law, people: if something can go wrong, it will.

3. Use a bell curve work method:  In school, I learned about bell curves only in the context of a teacher’s grading scale (aka “you’ll probably get a C in this class”).  But really, bell curves are much more helpful than just for telling you you’re average in a class, and one of the ways I use them is to describe working patterns.

The horizontal axis represents time, and the vertical axis represents task difficulty.  At first, I always start with a simple task to warm up to working.  Once I’ve completed a few easy tasks, my confidence in my productivity and work output is boosted, and I’m ready to take on more difficult tasks.  Once I’ve finished all of those, I try to give myself something as mindless and effortless as possible to complete—which acts as a cool down.  Most of the sports I’ve played also use this model, because all it’s really saying is that you start low, build up to a peak (whatever that represents in context), and gradually fall back down to where you started.

4. Make that to-do list:  In my experience, it isn’t the best option to try and remember every detail in your head.  You aren’t a robot, so you’ll probably forget things now and then.  When you write what you need to accomplish down, you’re taking the pressure off your memory and putting it onto a page.  Writing a list can also help you to organize the necessary, smaller tasks in your mind, and it allows you to visualize the project more clearly.  When you’re thinking more deeply about the project, too, you could also think of more

5. Delegate the work to the experts:  It’s okay if you’re not a superstar at everything.  Say you’re renovating a house, and need the exterior painted.  If you’re not skilled at painting, there’s a chance you’ll mess it up with a subsequent chance that you’ll need to hire someone to fix what you did in the beginning.  This costs you time and money you could’ve saved if you’d just delegated out the work at the start.  Knowing what you’re skilled at is just as important as knowing what you’re not.

6. Use the finger food method:  Cupcakes, chips and salsa, or those little meat skewers; people enjoy finger foods, and I think it’s partly because they’re in such small portions. For example, in comparison to the whole sheet cake, cupcakes are easy to manage and can fit more easily into a diet.  Stick with me, I know it sounds like I’m drifting.  Now, let’s pretend the total amount of time you have per day is like your daily calorie budget.  You can’t eat a whole sheet cake on this diet, but a cupcake or two would fit nicely into the allowance.  This is the same as budgeting time: smaller time commitments are easier to manage than larger, overwhelming ones.  Cutting the sheet cake (that is your time) into little pieces makes you feel less overwhelmed and intimidated by the task, and you can then conquer each of them individually.



How to spot and handle a toxic friendship

The people you’re surrounded with directly impact you.  They’re people who you’ll look to for support when you’re having trouble.  Sure, friends bicker and sometimes you hit low points, but you care about how each other feels, and you want to work to resolve it, even if you need a second or two to cool off.

A good friendship is one where you feel you can be completely yourself.  A not-so-good one is where you’re constantly being judged by them, you can’t be yourself, or you just don’t feel good about yourself when you’re around them.  Relationships like these aren’t in your best interest, and I want to show you how to spot a toxic friendship.

This isn’t to say that the person you have a toxic relationship with is always a bad person.  Differences in maturity, sensitivity, and insecurity can temporarily mold someone into a poisonous version of themselves, and sometimes, you’re just not the best person to be around them during that time.  That isn’t to say that the friendship has to be dead forever; maybe your personalities will mix better in a year or two, or maybe you blended best in the past.  But, either way, knowing how to recognize a relationship that isn’t good for you is important—in a way, letting a toxic relationship control how you feel controls a part of you.  And, to be clear, I’m not talking about physical abuse in this post.  So, here we go, let’s talk about how to spot a toxic friendship:

1.  You’re drained or angry when you’re done hanging out with them:  If you have a healthy friendship with someone, after your average get-together, you should feel energized, at peace, or happy that you got to see them.  If you often come back feeling emotionally exhausted or happy to have left, chances are, there’s something wrong.  You have friends for a reason, and one of those reasons is to have someone you can genuinely connect with and enjoy their company.  If you feel like you need to take up kickboxing when you’re done, that could be a problem.  If you have a countdown on your phone until you have to leave, that’s not enjoyment.  Personally, I use countdowns for chores, not things I enjoy—I don’t want to be there any longer than I have to.

2. S/he’s the focus:  Fun conversation goes back and forth.  You ask about him/her, s/he asks about you, and both people feel like they can talk and be heard.  One-sided conversation is where one person is constantly talking or the focus of every conversation and the other isn’t talking or being engaged.  A friendship works two ways: there should be a balance in focus, listening, and contribution from each side.  It’s exhausting to just listen to someone talk about themselves, or constantly turn a conversation about neither of you towards themselves (or worse, a conversation about your problems into one about their problems).  Put bluntly, a relationship where it’s all about one person is meant for a therapist, not a friend.  When someone turns it around to end up talking about themselves, it feels like s/he isn’t there to listen to you.  Instead, you’re there to listen to him/her.  Remember when I said that friendship is about support?  Yeah… this isn’t that.

3.  S/he tries to control you or monopolize your time:  Now, you have to take this advice with realism.  It isn’t right of a friend to expect you to drop something that’s really important to you just because s/he has a problem.  It’s indirectly saying that what you’re doing isn’t as important as what s/he needs, it conveys disrespect, and this is totally different from an actual emergency or serious situation.  This also goes with you wanting to spend time with other people: you are your own person who can spend your time as you want.  Having someone babysit your time or feel you need their permission to do something isn’t okay.  You’re just as much of a person as s/he is, and you can make your own decisions, period.

4.  All s/he does is point out your flaws:  We already know what’s wrong with us… we don’t need someone to keep telling us over and over.  It’s destructive for our self-esteem, and it doesn’t get us towards that place of self-betterment.  Telling us our flaws and helping us better ourselves are one thing; telling us our flaws just to keep it in our heads is different.  A great friend does the first; a toxic friend does the second.  Intention really matters here, and it shows through actions.

5.  S/he enjoys saying bad things about you when you’re not around: There is a difference between venting out of confusion and concern and trying to figure something out and gossiping out of spite.  You need someone who isn’t going to tear you down whenever your name comes up in conversation.

I think you have the idea—chances are, a toxic friend prioritizes their interests much more than that balance we talked about earlier.  S/he might not hesitate to tear you down, or s/he might try to control you.  So, now let’s talk about what you can do, and it’s actually very simple: mend or end.

First, start out by talking to your friend about what bothers you.  Be honest and genuine, and don’t attack them.  Instead, seek to understand and fix the problem.  You became friends for a reason, and you probably have a history with them.  Remind them that you care about him/her and your friendship, and that’s why you’re being open about what bothers you.  You want to fix it instead of watching it worsen.

Having said this, you’re important.  If the friendship is something you don’t believe can be fixed, the friend wouldn’t be a good influence even if it were fixed, or the friendship is too much, then you can begin distancing yourself from the person and gravitate towards good friends.  If you don’t have good friends, then you begin to search for them: through work, in clubs, at your church, or anywhere you think you’ll find people who want to support you and who you want to support.



4 types of naps and when to take each

I count myself lucky, because I think in my past 3 years of engineering school, I only remember 3 or 4 times where I stayed up all night doing schoolwork.  I’ve known people who’ve stayed up all night 30+ in a semester, and I’ve known some who always go to bed at 10PM every night with a clear, no-homework-left conscience.  I’m sympathetic to the first and envious of the second.

College, and particularly finals week, is perhaps one of the most sleep deprived episodes of someone’s twenties (except maybe when you get a job with unreasonable deadlines, have a baby, or watch The Conjuring too many times).  At the risk of sounding like my dad, though, sleep is probably the most important component of your finals week prepping.  When you sleep, you’re forming long-term memories from your short term.   You’re rejuvenating your brain so you can tackle problems and learn more quickly.  By letting your body rest, you’re letting yourself prepare properly for the next day.

But, sometimes we can’t get 8 hours a night.  Sometimes we can’t even get 5.  I totally get it.

And that’s where napping comes in.

I saw this cool infographic about the different kinds of naps and found it insightful. Here are the 4 types of naps that’ll benefit you during finals season:

  1. 10-20 minutes: it’s often dubbed the “power nap.”  According to researchers, it can help with energy and alertness, because you’re in a lighter sleep, which is easier to wake up from (you start feeling groggy once you wake up during deep sleep).
  2. 30 minutes:  this is when you start falling into a little deeper of a sleep.  Apparently, along with the benefits of a 20 minute nap, 30 minutes can help to clear your mind.
  3. 60 minutes: now we’re hitting REM sleep.  This is the rejuvenating part of sleep, and it’s the part you need to feel well-rested in the longterm.  For example, have you ever known someone who suffers from sleep apnea who complains of tiredness?  When you’re waking up in the middle of the night constantly due to snoring, you’re not letting your body go head-first into the REM sleep it needs.  A 60 minute nap does everything that a 30 minute nap does, but scientists believe it also increases our creativity.
  4. 90 minutes:  this is apparently the “perfect nap,” because it goes through one complete sleep cycle.  Depending on how much you sleep every night, your body goes through about 4-6 complete cycles every night.  Even though it’s just one cycle, it’s giving you the maximum brain benefit of all the naps, because it’s not waking you up before you’re body’s ready.

So, bottom line, if you want the most out of your nap, try and carve out an hour and a half from your study time.  But, if the length of a Youtube video is all you can spare, you’re still going to benefit from it! 🙂

Happy studying,


Why we need to ditch IQ testing

People put so much weight on IQs.  I think the IQ is probably one of the only numbers where it’s split between those who waive their number around like it’s a grand prize and others who don’t really care about it.

Now, I don’t want to seem like I’m this bitter soul who didn’t score what I wanted to on the test, so now I’m out to defame it altogether.  I’ve never taken an IQ test; sure, I took elementary school standardized tests and the SATs, but never anything that told me my intelligence in a three digit number.  (Granted, I’ll admit, I’ve also taken some of those knock off IQ tests; the ones that ask you things like, based on a president’s approval rating, what are the chances of him being elected for a third term, or whether brown sugar is considered a dry or wet ingredient when you’re baking a pie (the really important stuff).  But once they started asking for your email, I backed out—so, I guess that doesn’t count.)  However, I have done some research on IQ testing, including the methods, history, and reasoning of it, so I’ve gained a bit of an understanding on how and why it is what it is.

I remember in high school, the IQ score you got in middle school decided whether you got into certain classes and field trips. There’s also the Mensa program, an international high IQ society.  I think these programs are great, because they bring some of the world’s most intelligent people together, a lot of the times for the greater purpose of benefitting humanity.  I’ve talked about it here before, but bringing intelligent people together who come from different backgrounds, I believe, fosters the greatest potential for change.

IQ tests are good because they’re a quick way to test—and by quick, I mean it takes half an hour.  It also makes it easy to set cut offs; instead of doing holistic measurements that give a bunch of intelligence levels and other data, this gives you one number for each person, and it makes it easier to categorize.

But, here’s my problem with IQs, and thus, I suppose, a fundamental problem with defining intelligence for these programs: IQ tests, by nature, are flawed.  Just the idea of thinking that you can measure a person’s entire mental capacity based on a few questions about puzzles and spatial orientations is irrational.  How can a test determine an intelligence if it only takes 30 minutes to complete?  But, aside from this, I have a few particular issues with IQ testing.

There’s an art to taking a test.  I took a class for GRE prep, and our instructor basically said that the GRE doesn’t tell you how intelligent you are, but rather how well you can answer the questions.  What if you misinterpret the question, but you would’ve gotten it right if you didn’t?  What if you take a little longer to complete tests?  What if you have testing anxiety?

Those are all testing related issues, but let’s even go over some of the non-testing ones: what if your pet goldfish died before you took the test, and you can’t focus?  What if you fell down the stairs when you were walking to the room to take the test?  Your emotional state while you’re taking a test can affect how you do on it, too; the ability to concentrate is key.

Now, let’s talk about the actual test itself.  It’s split into four indexes that measure your total IQ: verbal comprehension (i.e. vocab and reading), working memory (i.e. arithmetic and sequencing), perceptual organization (i.e. picture completion and block design), and processing speed (i.e. patterns and sequences).  Ok, cool—sounds like we got our basic, standardized testing subjects down.

But, here’s the thing: there’re nine types of intelligence: spatial (i.e. seeing the world in 3D), naturalistic (i.e. nature and the environment), musical (i.e. pitch recognition), logical (i.e. the scientific method), existential (i.e. what is the meaning of life), interpersonal (i.e. reading people’s emotions), kinesthetic (i.e. hand-eye coordination), linguistic (i.e. your way with words), and intrapersonal (i.e. self awareness).

They don’t ask questions that would measure things like emotional maturity or interaction with others; this is a pencil and paper test, so it’s probably a good bet that it doesn’t measure any physical coordination skills either.  IQ tests don’t test for half the intelligences there are, so how is it supposed to give you and accurate estimation and account for what you excel in?  Not to mention, it doesn’t even test for creativity or work ethic, which are often regarded to as two of the most important factors in personal success.

Now, let’s cover this.  What if you didn’t try on the test, and you didn’t care about answering the questions wrong?  That doesn’t mean you aren’t intelligent or incapable of answering the questions—you just don’t care.  The IQ test doesn’t take that into account (granted, that’s a difficult thing for any test to correct).  And, going solely off the number you get once or twice when you’re 12 may not apply when you’re 40.

So, how do you fix it?  How do you accurately measure someone’s intelligence?

One of the best ways I can see is to test each of the nine types of intelligences individually.  This would involve a variety of testing; i.e, you might want a discussion to test interpersonal or existential intelligences, get up and moving around for the kinesthetic intelligences.

So, even though the IQ test is an easy testing method, there are a bunch of areas where it can fail you in terms of accuracy.